The initial step is to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. This can be done on the phone, using Zoom (or other videoconferencing service) or an in person meeting. You may use the Contact page on this website to request an appointment.
Sample subjects include:
- How to wisely search for, screen and choose a compatible housemate
- Ways to research and find a suitable intentional community to live in
- Types of group decision making, and how to learn them
- Increasing self-awareness about our personal styles (important for working well together in a group)
- Various legal structures for community ownership
- Forms helpful to have -- at the start, or which can be created at any time -- for a renters' collective, a co-buy, or group with a mix of owner and renters
- Moving through the conceptual phase, to the nitty-gritty tasks of actualizing your dream home/community
Conflict is inevitable. However, you can plan for how you will respond and get support, and agree in advance to following a process in times when things get confusing or bogged down in disagreement.
Helpful tools: Knowing Non-violent Communication; having a conflict resolution policy; having pre-identified conflict mediators or navigators to call upon. These might be people within the community or outside of it, and might be professional counselors or not, but they must be trusted by all parties involved. Knowing the difference between mediation and arbitration is a good distinction to have in place before wading in deeply to any co-living situation. We can provide these services or refer you to other options.
Thinking ahead about housing options, social needs, security issues, or any other type of end of life topic? I can help you think through these sensitive and very personal decisions.
One reason to consider having a housemate or two, even if you've never have had one before, is to increase your well being in the areas of safety, easy social opportunities, emotional health, personal growth, reducing your fixed expenses, etc. Collaboration and sharing are good for our intellectual and emotional health; avoiding loneliness lowers our physical health risks as well. Maybe you want to understand more about senior cohousing or professionally run assisted care facilities. We don't need to focus on co-living options if that's not what you're current interest is, but we can schedule a conversation about any topic regarding aging, discover what options best match your values and understand how you can prepare documents like Advance Directives.